Singing and Self-Confidence – Toronto Event and Wedding Singer

Why do we constantly doubt ourselves. If other people are in the room, they must be smarter, if we have a test or project due, we convince ourselves that we will either fail or get a bad mark. Is it just part of the human condition to think that we are so much less capable of doing what we can? In the end, I guess this is why we have so many people in this world with low self esteem, so many people who try and overcompensate with materialistic things they believe will make them feel better and give the illusion to others of confidence and success.

I think much of this thinking stems from our early life experiences, especially in the school setting. Personally, I remember elementary and high school being a very trying time when it came to my ego and self-esteem. I had loving parents who always spoke highly of me and always tried to boost my confidence. In addition, they enrolled me in activities that helped to build my self-esteem such as karate, soccer and singing. However, being in a school where you were with the same group of students from grade 3, you tended to get type casted by not only by your classmates, but the teachers as well. At my school, you developed a reputation from a very early age that stuck with you for the next 11 years. Of course, those who scored at the top of the class academically were looked upon favourable while those scoring the lowest were ridiculed and made to feel incompetent. If you were good in sports, then that was another confidence booster and a good way to regain some of the self esteem from your classmates if you were not an A+ student.

For me, the biggest confidence boost came from singing. The first solos that we had as choir boys was at St. Michael’s Cathedral in our grade 6 year when we would each be on weekly rotation to sing the psalm refrain at one of the Sunday masses. Thinking back to it, it was quite the stressful situation as we were forced to sing in front of a congregation that could be in excess of 1200 people. Further, all of the parents of our classmates were present and would all congregate outside the auditorium after mass waiting for our choir director to give her critique of our singing and to dismiss us for the day. So if you ended up stumbling or making any major gaffs on the Psalm, it was a walk of shame out of those auditorium doors.

However, this is where I felt I thrived and where I got my greatest sense of self esteem at the choir school. I specifically remember back to the first Psalm I had ever sung in 1986 during the First Sunday of Lent. “Be With Me Lord, When I Am In Trouble” were the words. I recall being petrified walking up to ambo and having to intone the Psalm refrain acapella. However, I remember going over that Psalm with my dad a ridiculous number of times the week leading up to the mass and all I can say is that my practice paid off. Fortunately, there was no walk of shame out of those auditorium doors but rather, one of pride and accomplishment in how I had performed. But what I remember most is that confidence boost that I had gained that day mainly from the reaction and feedback from my fellow students, teachers and parents. It didn’t matter to me on that day whether you were a straight A student in my class because I felt I had shattered any reputation others had o f me and replaced it with one that had put me in a league of my own (and the envy of my class).

Continuing to sing well into my adult years has continued to build my confidence by allowing me to not only shatter stereotypes but by also opening so many doors of opportunity for me. I have been asked to sing for the Prime Ministers of both Canada and St. Lucia, The Mayors of Toronto and Markham and I have been hired for services in different parts of Canada and the States and had the opportunity to sing in both Europe and the Caribbean

These performance opportunities have truly been memorable. Singing has helped to define me as a person and there is a strong sense of satisfaction to know that I been able to take my singing to the level I have today. There is really something to be said about the power of music.

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